We all have stories we engage in and believe regarding ourselves and others. I had a story that I was afraid of falling. But one of the great truths about fears and our beliefs is that they are just stories. In order to change our stories, we must change our actions. In order to change our actions we need to have the desire. If one really wants something, it is most often a sequence of action and determination. Steve Chandler offers us these insights as well as others on how to change the stories in our lives in The Story of You.
Unfortunately there is a lot of danger in our stories. Especially if they can become a convenient excuse to prevent us from growing. It allows us to have the “if only’s” in our lives. Sadly it can be tempting to play the victim and is something which I have been guilty in times past and recently. Of course there is a solution. First step is recognition of the story we are telling ourselves. When our life story is not proving beneficial, it often can prove time to take radical action to refute that story.
If one does not want to be couch potato, one simply needs to get out and be active on a consistent basis. If one believes one could never be a writer, to change that, one would begin to write on a consistent basis. One simply needs to take action that align with the life that we want. Yes, it often includes changing our lives. Resources need to be reallocated. Time may need to be spent in different ways. Of course the problem is that we may need give up relationships and habits in order to pursue our dreams. As the saying goes “in order to get what you have never had, you must commit to doing what you have never done.”
They say that the word decision means to cut off other options. The ability to say no to many things in our lives allows us to say a definitive yes to something. Cheryl Trujillo is an inspiration because she decided to do what she could do with what she has. We do not have to sulk if circumstances do not seem to favor us. We get to create our own story. In this we can find our purpose.